the one thing that has stuck with me every day since my English teacher told me it in middle school is:
"When referring to someone, always say who they are before anything else about them, because being a person always comes first"
Instead of saying “the mentally ill man,” say “the man with a mental illness”
Putting someone’s characteristics (especially negative ones) before them is dehumanizing and rude. Don’t do it.
Welcoming a newcomer tonight brought back so clearly to me how frickin scared I was when I arrived at my first meeting. I never believed anyone would accept me, let alone try to help me and share their support and experience with me. I am so thankful for NA, and everyone there who has lead me this far.